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Dale Carnegie's " How to win friends and influence people

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14 Ways to improve relationships by Stephen Covey for highly effective executives are:

1. Acquiring the Basic Skills

• Take heart from the experience of others
• Keep your goal before you
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Seize every opportunity to practice

2. Developing Confidence

• Get the facts about fear of speaking in public
• Prepare in the proper way
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Act confident

3. Speaking Effectively the Quick and Easy Way

• Speaking about something you have earned the right to talk about through experience or study
• Be sure you are excited about your subject
• Be eager to share your talk with your listeners

Speech, Speaker, and Audience

4. Earning the Right to Talk

• Limit your subject
• Develop reserve power
• Fill your talk with illustrations and examples
• Use concrete, familiar words that create pictures

5. Vitalizing the Talk

• Choose subjects you are earnest about
• Relive the Feelings you have about your topic
• Act in earnest

6. Sharing the Talk with the Audience

• Talk in terms of your listeners' interests
• Give honest, sincere appreciation
• Identify yourself with the audience
• Make your audience a partner in your talk
• Play yourself down

The Purpose of Prepared and Impromptu Talks

7. Making the Short Talk to Get Action

• Give your example, an incident from your life
• State your point, what you want the audience to do
• Give the reason or benefit the audience may expect

8. Making the Talk to Inform

• Restrict your subject to fit the time at your disposal
• Arrange your ideas in sequence
• Enumerate your points as you make them
• Compare the strange with the familiar
• Use visual aids

9. Making the Talk to Convince

• Win confidence by deserving it
• Get a Yes-response
• Speaking with  enthusiasm
• Show respect and affection for your audience
• Stay friendly smile

10. Making Impromptu Talks

• Practice speaking
• Be mentally ready to speak
• Get into an example immediately
• Speak with animation and force
• Use the principle of to the point delivery (quick & fast)






The Art of Communicating, speaking, teaching, listening

11. Delivering the Talk

• Crash through your shell of self-consciousness
• Don't try to imitate others--Be yourself
• Converse with your audience
• Put your heart into your speaking
• Practice making your voice strong and flexible
• Shortest speech is the best.

The Challenge of Effective Speaking

12. Introducing Speakers, Presenting and Accepting Awards

• Thoroughly prepare what you are going to say
• Follow the T-I-S Formula
• Be enthusiastic
• Thoroughly prepare the talk of presentation
• Express your sincere feelings in the talk of acceptance





13. Organizing the Longer Talk

• Get attention immediately
• Avoid getting unfavorable attention
• Support your main ideas
• Appeal for action

14. Applying What You Have Learned

• Use specific detail in everyday conversation
• Use effective speaking techniques in your job
• Seek Opportunities to speak in public
• You must persist
• Keep the certainty of reward before you
• Drive your car carefully, do not irritate others, forgive when driving your car. If someone takes your parking spot just drive further and walk some to improve your health.

 

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