January 17, 2004, Saturday
Ditch the Viagra -the best night of sex you will
ever have could be
waiting in the herb section at the health food
store. Sharon Krum
reports
On paper Ellen Kamhi has all the attributes
necessary for a successful
career as a porn star. She talks about sex with
abundant enthusiasm
although, she points out, she prefers to perform it.
She can't look at a
banana or cucumber without referencing its
anatomical equivalent. And
when she contorts herself into yoga poses she's not
seeking serenity but
deeper orgasms.
So it's understandable that there is both surprise
and disappointment
when people learn that Kamhi is no X-rated starlet
but a middle-aged
nurse and practitioner of holistic medicine whose
real and abiding
fetish isn't sex (though she rates it highly) but
food and herbs.
"I'll never criticise modern medicine. There is
definitely a place for
it in our lives," says Kamhi, who has been
dispensing herbal remedies
from her New York natural health practice for 30
years. "But I believe
herbs, vitamins and foods used in specific
quantities can be as potent
as prescription drugs, yet with fewer or no
side-effects. So when you
have a health problem, you should always look to
nature first."
Which brings her to sex, or rather, dysfunctional
sex, which Kamhi
claims has become the new "it" disease of the
pharmaceutical
industry.Given that people love sex and don't look
like giving it up any
time soon, new drugs that restore libido (for
menopausal women) or
enhance performance (for impotent men) are a
veritable licence to print
money.
In the US, ten Viagra pills cost about $ 150 (£81),
leading many men to
order, via the internet, from Mexico, lowering the
cost by 30 per cent.
Though Kamhi understands the rush to bring
prescription drugs into the
bedroom, she insists that there is no need. In her
new book The Natural
Guide to Great Sex: Improve Your Love Life with
Nature's Alternatives to
HRT and Viagra, she promises that sustained
erections and heightened
arousal can be found inside the supermarket and
health food store.
"Everybody wants great sex, so I understand this
obsession with
pharmaceuticals," says Kamhi, 52, who certainly
looks like a walking
advertisement for natural supplements, with glowing
skin and an energy
level double most women her age. "But you have to
calculate the cost.
HRT we now know has serious implications for cancer.
An adverse reaction
for Viagra is headaches, strokes, in some cases
death.
"Foods and herbs have fewer side-effects. The
difference is that people
have to be patient. Some herbal remedies work
instantly; some take a
month or longer. But they do work," she claims.
Unbelievable? She swears
it is all based on science.
Interestingly, some men who seek out Kamhi don't
even exhibit symptoms
of sexual dysfunction, their problem is simply too
much Sex and the City
and Britney Spears videos. "Younger men today are
bombarded with sexual
images in the media, making their expectations
enormous. They expect
fireworks every time and think they are not
performing adequately, when
really they are having just fine sex."
But for men experiencing genuine impotence, Kamhi
treats them with the
herb yohimbe, which she says provides a similar
level of stimulus and
blood flow to the penis as Viagra:
"Yohimbe is bark stripped from a tree in West
Africa. It stimulates
circulation to the genitals and will become active
within an hour of
use." Kamhi insists that all her recommendations
have been verified by
scientific studies done in Germany, the US or the
UK.
Korean ginseng, she maintains, also works well as a
stimulant directly
before sex.
"Studies have shown an increase in the duration of
erection. But taking
Korean ginseng on an ongoing basis will also
increase testosterone
levels."
For general male sexual wellness, she recommends
oysters (no, it's not a
myth, she claims), which are high in zinc. "It is
often low in men who
have sexual dysfunction. Adding foods high in zinc,
like oysters, as
well as pumpkin seeds and pine nuts, is essential
for a healthy sex
life." As are oats, the bane of many a childhood
breakfast. "Oats
boost
sex drive. They contain zinc, proteins and minerals
needed to produce
healthy seminal fluids. Men should eat a bowl a
day."
They should, Kamhi also instructs, use ginger and
cayenne pepper in
their food before sex. "They are warming herbs and
increase circulation
to the genitals."
And now for the don'ts: carbs, fats, alcohol and
fish and chips. "When I
was in London in May, I was shocked how much bread
and fat the English
eat. Carbs and fats lead to hardening of the
arteries, which decreases
circulation to the genitals." Fried foods, she
argues, particularly a
regular diet of fish and chips, contain trans
(hydrogenated) fats, which
decrease testosterone and increase abnormal sperm
(in animals). Alcohol,
she points out, lowers sexual response, although
most men know this. "If
men want great sex they should stick to a diet high
in vegetables and
fish and low in carbs and fats. And they should eat
oats."
Women mercifully are spared a return to porridge but
Kamhi says there
are foods and herbs they too should ingest daily to
increase or restore
sexual health.
"Unlike men, women have a real shift towards a
decreased sex drive as
they age due to the decline in hormones," she says.
"But there are
foods
and herbs that can increase libido and support the
production of
oestrogen to reduce hot flushes, just like HRT."
Soya, of course, is considered a magic pill for
women in menopause but
Kamhi warns them to tread lightly. "One ounce a day
of soya milk or
foods is fine. But too much can interfere with
thyroid function." Much
better is to have one pomegranate a day, a fruit
which she says contains
a form of oestrogen called oestrone.
Similarly, fennel contains oestrogen-like
oestragole.
When it comes to great sex, Kamhi says that along
with soft lighting and
a Barry White CD, herbs and minerals are a woman's
best friend. She
believes the mineral arginine can increase arousal
of post-menopausal
women. And that the herb damiana, taken daily, can
help a 50-year-old
feel like a newlywed.
But when daily maintenance isn't enough and it's
time to break out the
nuclear weapons, Kamhi says that directly before sex
women should
partake of yohimbe: "It can increases circulation to
the genitals,
elevating sexual response. And magnesium before sex
increases
circulation to female sex organs and can stimulate a
stronger orgasm,"
she claims. Vitamin E, she swears, is a woman's best
friend when it
comes to vaginal dryness. "Women should eat
avocados, rich in vitamin E,
and can use it intra-vaginally (using bottled oil)
for lubrication."
People have long used the dinner date as a prelude
to seduction but
Kamhi says the reason why some meals end badly and
others in the bedroom
all comes down to the menu. She instructs all cooks
to light candles
then serve a smoothie made of vanilla (the smell is
an aphrodisiac),
soya milk (for the phytoestrogens) and banana
(potassium for sex drive)
laced with 30 drops of liquid extract yohimbe,
damiana and ginseng.
Follow with oysters on the half shell and asparagus
(for its phallic
overtones). Dessert should be limited to chocolate
which, as all good
chocoholics know, can stimulate the production of
endorphins -feel-good
chemicals.
Then, once in the bedroom with your hormones racing,
Kamhi advises you
spend five to ten minutes doing yoga before hitting
the sheets. She is
not joking: "Studies have shown that certain yoga
postures can be
powerful before sex. For men, a shoulder stand
drains blood out of the
lower body and releases stagnation in the genitals.
For women, the
butterfly pose (see panel) directs energy to the
genitals and opens up
the area often blocked by emotional issues."
I delicately ask Kamhi, whose boyfriend is 59, how
much of her own
advice they have taken as a couple. She is more than
happy to talk about
her sex life, brag actually. "We have tried
everything I recommend in
the book. We did the yoga positions, took the herbs
and ate the foods,
and I have to say, we had great sex!"
she shrieks.
"My boyfriend said the yohimbe worked as well as
Viagra, and taking
damiana, I could definitely feel a difference. I'm
telling you, the best
night of sex you will ever have is waiting for you
at the health food
store."
The Natural Guide to Great Sex: Improve your Love
Life with Nature's
Alternatives to HRT and Viagra, by Ellen Kamhi,
Godsfield Press, £12.99,
is published this month * People with chronic
medical conditions, such
as high blood pressure, or those using prescription
medications should
consult a doctor before using any herbs for sexual
health.
BEST YOGA POSITION FOR SEX
Butterfly pose: this sitting stretch focuses on the
inner thighs and
opens the genitals, heightening the sensitivity of
this area.
1 Sit up straight on the floor.
2 Breathe deeply. Using your hands, hold the soles
of your feet
together, and pull heels to within 12cm of your
body.
3 Gently bounce knees up and down, 2-4cm, for two or
three minutes.
HERBAL APHRODISIAC
Use liquid extracts of the following, which are
available in most health
food stores:
Ginseng, ginger, oat, damiana, muira puama,
passionflower.
Combine 20 drops of each extract in one-quarter cup
of warm water. You
can add one half-ounce of Amaretto or some other
flavored liqueur.
RECIPE FOR LOVERS
FENNEL, ORANGE, POMEGRANATE AND PINE-NUT SALAD
1 fennel bunch, thinly sliced stalks and bulb
1 orange, sliced into wedges (skin removed)
1 whole pomegranate
20 pine nuts
15 mint leaves
In a medium-size salad bowl, combine cut-up fennel
and orange slices.
Scoop all the flesh out of the pomegranate and mix
with the fennel and
orange slices.
Sprinkle the pine nuts and mint leaves on top of the
mixture. Serve
within one hour of preparation.
(You'll need an extra bowl to spit out the
pomegranate seeds after
sucking off the red flesh.)